I found myself arguing with an orthodox rabbi and some of his friends over the recent terrorist attack of worshippers in a Jerusalem synagogue. The rabbi in his comments said “May G-d avenge the blood of our brothers and sisters.” I replied “Instead of speaking of vengeance, we need to pray for a path to lead us out of the cycle of violence which has entangled the Jewish and Palestinian peoples.”
I was accused of condoning and/or excusing the violence of the synagogue attack. I don’t condone or excuse any form of violence, especially attacks against innocent civilians. I recognize that the Palestinians have legitimate grievances against Israel, though that does not in any sense justify terrorism. The current Israeli government continues to extend the settlements, which in itself convinces many Palestinians that Israel is not serious about peace. They continue home demolitions even though the security officials in Israel have found those do nothing to deter terrorism. Extremist Palestinians continue terrorism attacks which convince Israelis that the Palestinians are not serious about peace.
It is a particularly nasty and vicious cycle. The standard response from many Jews, and from the rabbi in question is that building in settlements is quite different from the taking of a human life. I would certainly agree, but when you look at statistics from B’tselem, an Israeli NGO which has a peace advocacy, you find that Israel kills 4 to 6 times as many Palestinians as the number of Jews killed in terrorism attacks. There are various rationales for the deaths of the Palestinians, but the people are dead nonetheless.
Again, I neither condone nor excuse the terrorist attacks on Israeli civilians, but where 5 people, including a Druse (Muslim) police officer were killed in that attack, Baruch Goldstein killed 29 people and wounded 125 when he opened fire in a Hebron mosque on people at a prayer service. Some of my Jewish critics spoke of Palestinians celebrating the terrorist attacks, which some may have, but some Israelis have made a hero out of Baruch Goldstein.
I am not trying to weigh deaths or to keep score, and am reminded of the saying attributed to Gandhi: “An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.” Demonizing the other side makes it easier to justify any cruelties perpetrated on them. That goes for any side in any conflict, including both the Jews and Palestinians. When we do so, it perpetuates the kind of cycle of conflict and violence that we see in the Middle East. We can only begin to find peace when we find a way to end that cycle of violence.
Some of my fellow Jews, who contributed comments to that discussion seem at best to consider me naïve. One of them said that explicitly. I wish I saw another good solution, and indeed none of them had anything resembling a solution. Some Jews call for driving the Palestinians out of the West Bank, which fuels the fears and fury of the Palestinians. Those Palestinians who call for driving the Jews out of Israel fuel the paranoia of the Israelis and other Jews. So long as the rhetoric is heated on both sides, few people can see clearly. The biggest problem is that the rhetoric can seem to justify reprisals. The few sane people seem to be drowned out by the screaming mobs on both sides.
In quantum physics, it seems that what you look for is what you find. When you look to see if light is a particle, it is a particle. When you look to see if it is a wave, it is a wave. The real world is often much the same way. When one looks for hatred, one finds hatred. When one looks for love, one can find love. We need to shift our vision so that what we seek is what we truly want to find, while still not allowing ourselves to be caught up in wishful thinking.
In the final analysis, the question is what we shall live for. I choose to live in pursuit of peace, justice, and non-violence. So long as people demonize their foes, and try to wreak vengeance upon them, we will never end the cycle of violence. Not everyone I deal with will treat me as humanely as I try to treat them. But just as Gandhi pursued non-violence in the face of violent actions by the British in India, I also will push for those things which I feel make peace more likely, not less likely. If that makes me naive, then I will wear that badge with honor.